According to the german (s)expert, author and columnist Jana Förster many men complain that most women don’t know how to give a good blow job. Supposedly men feel more “processed” because women think a blow job is a fixed part of foreplay. They don’t do it because they want to do it.
As I read the german article I had to think of my first relationship. Because the sex was extremely boring and uninspired, I often felt I should just give a blow job to get it over with or to avoid having to have sex all together. These blow jobs were affective, but probably not worth mentioning – and not enjoyable for me at all. Also a motivation to consider when it comes to bad blow jobs…
Förster says men don’t just want the “in & out” technique. One guy brought it to the point: just do it the same way you women want to get licked. I think this is a very good tip – if the man receiving is able to let go and enjoy this special treat. I have heard often enough that men are not ably to submit to the feeling. She may be down on her knees for him, but she’s in control of his orgasm. Men who can’t handle that usually do demand the fast, hard in & out sucking like they see in porn movies – so that they can come quickly. A shame really, because it can be so much more.
So what are good blow job tips? First and foremost I have to agree with Lvstprinzip, which means ‘priciple of lust’ (if you can read german, follow this woman by the way!): if you don’t want to do it, then don’t do it. Just imagine a guy who is not motivated going down on you… No fun, or?
I always say: it should not be a blow job, but a blow hobby. This means the woman giving it should not only be willing to give it, she should be enjoying it. If a blow hobby is lustful to her, it most certainly will be very lustful to him!
Include his balls, the inside of his thighs, his belly – and include yourself.
Lick, stroke, suck, bite, kiss, slow, fast, control. In other words: play and have fun!
Oh: and if he is not able to enjoy all this and just wants you to give him a boring in & out blow job, you can always be a bad girl 😉