INTERVIEW WITH A PROFESSIONAL NAKED MAN II – VIENNESE ESCORT JASON
We’ve always been curious about male escorts who offer their services to female clients. Who are these men? What is their motivation to work as a gigolo? Who exactly are their customers and what is it that they desire? Is it just sex these ladies want or do they expect something else? The topic got put on ice until recently Lady Lu from #letswatchporn discovered a website of an agency called gents4ladies. This was our chance to satisfy our curiosity! Eagerly we went through the profiles and got stuck on the one of a man called “Jason”. What intrigued us about Jason, was for one the fact that he did not show his face. Okay, his six pack impressed us – a lot. And the star blinking in the corner. But it was mostly the ‘Beware! Oxytocin danger!’ at the end of his profile description that convinced us he’d have to be the next professional naked man to schedule an interview with.
Through the agency we agreed to meet at a typical coffee house in Vienna’s wonderful first district. There he was: a tall, well-built, dark haired man in his early thirties, with very friendly eyes and a winning smile… Jason started chatting right away, asking questions about the why’s and how’s of NMHW. As soon as all three of us were present and had our drinks, we were ready to turn the tables.
Enjoy the second interview in the series ‘Interview with a professional naked man’!
Jason: I was working in a bar for quite some time and one late evening, one of our regular costumers asked me whether I would like to have sex with her, as in straight away. Jokingly I said she would have to pay me for skipping the rest of my shift. She then proposed a certain amount of money and that was it. I went home with her and we had a lot of fun. So that was the start of it all. In fact, she became a regular client. And that was four years ago.
NMHW: Is this your full-time job?
Jason: No, I have a main job in the social sector, but regarding the income the escort job pays as if it was my regular occupation.
NMHW: What sort of basic requirement does a male escort need?
Jason: I understand my work as social work; sex isn’t always included. Therefore empathy, a strong interest in people and their life stories is necessary. You need to have a certain matureness. The possibility to see something that is beautiful or attractive in every woman is also very important. And of course absolute discretion is fundamental.
NMHW: There are only two men on the website of your agency that do not show their faces, only their chiselled chests. One of whom is you. Is there a reason behind it?
Jason: Once your face is on the internet it will always be there, so for me it is a certain way of keeping my privacy. Until now I never had the problem that a client wanted to me to leave when seeing me for the first time, so I feel there is need to show more of myself on my profile.
NMHW: Can you tell us how a job interview goes with an agency like yours? What does a man have to do to get into the agency files? We refer to the physical description in the profile, also regarding the penis size…
Jason: (laughs) Nobody asked me to show my penis when I had the job interview, neither did I have to proof my erotic skills. But maybe this would not be such a bad idea!
NMHW: Is there a big difference between being a male escort and a female escort?
Jason: Yes, there is. Male clients often only focus on the female body and want to have sex. That’s what they pay for. Female customers are more complex. It is not always sex these women want, which makes it more difficult for a male escort to accommodate and satisfy their needs. It is my goal to understand you, women! (smiles)
NMHW: How is the market for male escorts in Austria?
Jason: Compared to Germany and Switzerland, Austria is still very conservative. German and Swiss women are lot more open and allow themselves the services of an escort easily, whereas Austrian women are not so easily inclined to pay for an escort. Also, in Germany and Switzerland the hourly rate is higher.
NMHW: Do you travel to Germany and to Switzerland for clients?
Jason: Yes of course, if they want me to come to them, sure.
NMHW: Who are your clients? What age segment is strongly represented?
Jason: I have had a couple of younger customers, women in their mid-twenties who were curious and wanted to have the experience of having sex with a professional, but they are rare. Most customers are in their mid 30s up to their late 50s. These are often very strong women who have both feet on the ground, who are successful and who either earn enough money to indulge themselves whenever they want to or have husbands who can afford it. Or they are single and don’t want to be bothered trying to get to know someone. This group of women is where my steady customers come from, but in general one can say my customers come from all walks of life, married, divorced and single.
NMHW: What is their motivation to book a professional?
Jason: For one curiosity, but often it can also be seen as a sort of bargain between wives and husbands. I remember a client once who told me that her husband cheated on her three times, so she was allowed to cheat on him three times as well. He even knowingly paid her bills. I personally don’t believe in a monogamous relationship and through this work I can see where my doubts come from. Lawyers and escorts make a living out of dysfunctional marriages.
I also remember being thrice the choice of virgins. These young women wanted to make sure their first time would be a nice experience.
NMHW: Would you agree that women in relationships are more often dissatisfied and therefore use your services?
Jason: Yes. Many of my regular clients are women who are unhappy with their relationships, who have men who cheat on them or have affairs they know about. Some of these men allow their wives to have some fun as well and pay my bills. Then there are also the successful women I spoke of earlier, who want a man to take over the lead for a change.
NMHW: How often does a regular client book you?
Jason: A regular client does not need service once a week. Often there are bigger gaps between our appointments. Some of course do come back on a more frequent level.
NMHW: “American Gigolo” with Richard Gere in the lead role is the iconographic film when it comes to the work of male escorts. Reading the comments on YouTube regarding the film one gets the impression that your work is a dream-come-true for every man: getting payed for having sex with beautiful women. Does the work of an escort really carry that suggested lightness?
Jason: No, it doesn’t. That idea is absolutely idiotic. As I pointed out before, being an escort means working with human beings. This job does not focus on sex solely as some men like to believe. I know what guys talk about when they share a beer, but what they believe about working as an escort is so far fetched from reality. Sex can of course be included, but it doesn’t have to happen. Anything is possible. Sometimes it is just talking, the chance for her to cry and to be cradled for some hours. The relation between sex and getting some non-sexual attention I’d say is about 40%-60%.
Jason: Definitely, kissing can happen – although for me it is something very intimate. However, a passionate kiss is the beginning of passionate lovemaking! 😃
NMHW: Do your friends know that you work as an escort?
Jason: No, they don’t.
NMHW: Are there any requirements for a client? Can you be picky about them or refuse to have sex?
Jason: If the client is drunk or uses some illegal drugs, sex is something that is not going to happen. If they are about to fall out, I make it as safe as possible for her and me. Has happened already.
NMHW: For a female sex worker it is ‘easier’ to have sex with a client she does not fancy. For a man, though, it can be organically more challenging. Do you use pills like Viagra or other little helpers?
Jason: I do, but I rarely I need them. Also, the definition of sex is rather wide when it comes to the work of an escort. When is something sex? For instance, it is also possible to use toys to pleasure my client.
NMHW: Compared to female sex workers, the topic of compulsion among male sex workers seems to be rare. Why in your opinion is that the case?
Jason: It depends of course on the personal living conditions. My approach to this work is completely different from hustlers who work the streets. For these young men, who are mostly immigrants, compulsion is an issue, but still it is not as pressured as it is for women working in the same business.
NMHW: How do you deal with the request for unsafe sex?
Jason: I decline it. I wouldn’t do it for any offered sum. So far my clients never cancelled a date because of this. Like I said, I have 0% cancelations.
NMHW: Most women need the feeling to be wanted to find sex satisfying. It gets problematic when a partner is unable to provide this sense of being desirable and does not understand what to do. How do you as a professional give your customers the feeling of being wanted, despite the fact that they pay for having sex with you?
Jason: It is a matter of talking, giving the woman the feeling that she is secure, which she is of course, and being in the moment with her. Of course she knows that she pays for it. Still, it is the attentiveness you have to give generously and transmit the feeling that she is the only person who counts. Especially during the first date women are nervous and need the attention to relax and feel at ease. It has never happened that a new client wanted to get into action immediately.
NMHW: We all heard stories of male clients who fall in love with the escort lady. Do you have similar experiences with female clients?
Jason: Certainly, you get after all very close with one another and you have to be very considerate how to handle that. It’s not that I play a role, but “Jason”, the man they spent time with, is only one part of my personality. As a private person I live a complete different life. I am single, have a dog that I give a lot of attention. I am very much aware of the possibility of clients falling in love, particularly the steady ones. Up to now some mindfulness and a bit of dissociation helped along.
NMHW: Is there a funny or worst experience in your career as an escort you’d be willing to share with us?
Jason: There is no such thing like a funniest or a worst moment I endured. Something I am not that enthusiastic about, is when the male partner is taking part in the meeting. Being observed by her partner or husband is one thing. Men who want to participate are seldom my age and I do not find older male bodies attractive to look at, so I somehow have to blend him out. Women who are married to these men are interestingly enough always quiet young and often very attractive.
NMHW: What is your favoured combination? 1-on-1?
Jason: Absolutely. I don’t mind if there are two women, but I rather concentrate myself on one client.
NMHW: From a professional point of view, could you tell us how men could improve their sexual relationships with their ladies? What can you recommend?
Jason: (laughing): Oh, I don’t believe I can give recommendations to anybody. Even though it is part of my work, I believe I have less sex than the average guy. Being in the moment, being aware of what is going on between oneself and your partner I think is the only thing I could point out. In the end it is the right chemistry that makes sex an amazing experience.
NMHW: What are your plans for the future?
Jason: Things always come differently than planned, right? So I’ve stopped doing that. I only think in terms of weeks. Until the end of this year I will be in Thailand – where you can book me as well – and when I have returned, we’ll see.